| Apr. 26, 2007 | 9:53 pm |
Why you should still have sex on your period
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One of my friends was recently bemoaning the fact that her and her boyfriend hadn’t had sex in over a week. Seeing that she usually has a healthy sex life, I was perplexed by this dry spell. Did they have a fight? Were they too busy? Had he gotten seriously kneed in the balls?
Well, no, she admitted. It was just “that time of the month” again.
I understand the rationale behind not having sex on your period. It’s messy, you feel unattractive and bloated, and blood freaks some people out. But this girl was nearly ravenous with sexual tension – and for no valid reason except being on the rag.
According to her, it was just something you didn’t do. I couldn’t really figure out if she thought it was gross or if her boyfriend was the problem, but she made clear that having sex on her period was completely out of the question.
Call me crazy, but it’s just blood. You deal with all sorts of other bodily fluids when you’re having sex, so why not that, too? What makes blood any more disgusting than, say, semen? I bet if men had periods it’d be a matter of pride rather than embarrassment: “Dude, I bled all over this girl last night! And it was so hot!”
Are guys really that grossed out by blood, or do we just think they are? I think given the option, most guys would rather get laid. Besides, they think bleeding from a cut is super hardcore, so why should it be any different when it comes from a vag?
And, please, enough of this “periods are gross” business. Bodies are gross. Sex is gross. Let’s get over it and move on.
Once you get past the taboo factor, sex on your period actually has all sorts of benefits. Orgasms are good for cramps. There’s extra lubrication. And the swing of hormones might mean that you’re extra horny.
So if you do decide to do the nasty when Aunt Flow’s visiting, just make sure you remember the following:
- Avoid mess. Wait until your heaviest days are over. Put down old towels (or buy black sheets!). Pick positions where you can lie on your back. You can also use menstrual cups that fit over your cervix to stop the flow while you’re getting down.
- Protect yourself. Some guys would rather use a condom during period sex, simply for the barrier it provides. But unless both of you have been tested and are monogomous, condoms a good idea anyways since you can still get sexually transmitted diseases from having sex on your period. Some STDs, especially HIV and herpes, are actually easier for a guy to contract from a girl who’s on her period. And don’t forget to use a dental dam – or a condom cut in half – for oral sex, unless you have vampire tendencies. You can also use a tampon to avoid overflow during oral sex.
- Use birth control. Although it’s less likely, you can still get pregnant on your period. Semen can live for several days, and if you happen to ovulate in that time frame, you could get pregnant. Note: It’s okay to have sex during the week-long break at the end of a pack of birth control pills (the week you get your period). Just make sure you continue to take it after the end of that week to prevent ovulation.
Just remember: If you don’t have sex during your period, that’s almost a week of celibacy every month. And would you really rather be celibate for a fourth of your life than have sex on your period?
lea said,
December 13, 2007 @ 9:02 am
Sex is the last thing on my mind when I’m on my period.
It’s not the bloating or feeling ugly, it’s just that I don’t think about it at all, and I’ve tried. It’s the least time when I feel ‘In the mood’!
margeaux said,
January 12, 2008 @ 3:14 am
i get very horny around the time of my period.. and i dont mind it if my partner doesnt. i find a lot of guys are like NO WAY. i want to try those cup things. i hate how my hormones make me the horniest when im the messiest.
Hawk said,
January 28, 2008 @ 12:59 pm
I don’t mind the (mess) as some call it. When the mood strikes, and both are willing/wanting, who CARES if a little blood is spilled. Use a plastic sheet and/or have some paper towels handy…..
Brandon said,
February 2, 2008 @ 4:12 pm
YALL ARE ALL SICK. REALLLY REALLLY SICK
Lola said,
February 2, 2008 @ 9:17 pm
My husband doesn’t mind at all to have sex on my period. There is no way he could leave me alone for a whole week…we get it on all the time on my period…I was actually on my period on our honeymoon! Wait till you married to have sex!
Andy said,
February 3, 2008 @ 1:07 pm
I think it’s hot when a girl is on her period. They usually want it so much more, and who cares about the mess? It’s not like it gushes or anything.
Selena said,
February 6, 2008 @ 10:11 pm
I find that just before my period and like a few days into my period im very horny. My husband has had sex with me at the very end and we normally use a condom so cleanup is easyer. Its much more easyer when your married to do that.
Shelby said,
February 11, 2008 @ 6:02 pm
I had sex on my period just last night and it was sexy… Enough said.
Lexi said,
February 14, 2008 @ 2:11 pm
me and my man have sex on the time of the month….but sometimes it hurts, like i feel like he is about to pop somthing inside me….does anyone know why or know how to help?
robert said,
February 18, 2008 @ 7:47 pm
hey yall whats up how yall doing im doing wonderful and my gf is right next to me and we r debating on this subject we just dont know she is made horny for me and wants me right now cuz my dick is to big for her to give me a blow job and i dont think i have any hand lotion so we need sex good bye and good night
Shan said,
March 9, 2008 @ 2:29 pm
I am so happy that i am still virgin :P
No time for sex…i have lots of work to do :(
rediscool said,
March 24, 2008 @ 5:19 pm
if you wanna get your dick red without the risk of gettin your partner pregnant , fuck a pot of strawberry jam.works for me ;p
lolwtfrofl said,
April 13, 2008 @ 2:56 am
LOLWTFROFL
chris said,
April 13, 2008 @ 2:42 pm
i think if your in the mood do it i have no problem with it when im horny it will wash off just as easy as puss. juice
ahmed said,
April 14, 2008 @ 5:51 pm
I want to tell you that this is forbidden in islam.(i mean introducing male into female sex organs during the period),thanks
Jen said,
April 26, 2008 @ 2:50 am
hey im about to have sex on my period its the first day but normally the first and last days are the best times to have sex if your on your period. Less mess haha but like everyone said dark toel will solve the problem as long as ur mans okay with it your good. just make sure he doesnt freak out at the sight of it but it should only be a few drops especially if your on your back!
Aaron said,
April 30, 2008 @ 9:54 pm
you guys are fuckin sick. Very Very disturbed. im with brandon that shit is disguisting. You can smell the blood, ruin my sheets. You can wait a week if i can wait a week.
IF you are that horny, go read a book or something. Hell im sure you wont be cheating because 99% of guys would tell you that shit is disguisting too.
justin said,
May 3, 2008 @ 1:33 am
its perfectly safe if your both monogomous, its till sex its better cause theres more lube, it doesent smell bad get some freebreeze air effects retards!! use dirty towels or sheets your about to wash, have sex just before a shower, its helps cramps, sex releaves stress and fuckin best of all your stilll having sex!!
SHAY said,
May 5, 2008 @ 8:49 pm
I THINK DAT SHIT NASTY FUCKIN WHILE U ON YO PERIOD
Victoria said,
May 12, 2008 @ 1:20 pm
Actually it’s not that bad, if my boyfriend really wants to we just get in the shower but every time we have done it there wasn’t any mess at all. Having sex on your period sometimes stops the blood for a while, and it doesn’t “get his dick red”, as you seem to think. I really don’t think any of you have actually tried it before, so don’t get all offended and disgusted about it.
Lamont said,
May 13, 2008 @ 12:28 am
My girlfriend is really horny right now, but she is on her period, she is scared to do it, neither of us have done that before, but i told her i was willing to if we got in the tub and were in water, less mess and i read something about a womans abdomen contracting or something so it temporarily stops the flow, oh well the curse of good sex, the period, and thinking its gross. looks like its jergens for me tonight.
jezebel said,
May 20, 2008 @ 9:18 am
I didn’t want to try having sex on my period when my boyfriend suggested it, even though it’s the time of the month when I’m horniest, because I was petrified that a) he’d be really turned off by the blood and b) that I’d get his sheets etc. dirty. Oddly enough, when we actually tried it there was no evidence of blood at all, so there were no problems and in fact the blood didn’t come back for several hours which gave me a bit of respite from the cramps. Honestly, try it, it does wonders for your self-esteem when your hormones are all over the place!
christina said,
May 24, 2008 @ 7:32 pm
I think its better if you take a shower first to stop or slow the flow…then you can have all the sex you want….I think its better cause the hormone thing!
brit said,
May 26, 2008 @ 10:48 pm
Heyy! Well I think havin sex while on period isn’t a big deal like everybody makes it sound like! I haven’t tried it but I wOuld lOve tOO!
Chloe said,
May 27, 2008 @ 5:58 am
hey
not having sex even for like onem or two days isn’t nice for me,i was slightly worried about having sex on my period because i thought it would be messy etc ! but it was fine , in fact it made me feel much better afterwards! there was no mess at all , as long as ur on the bottom its fine! my period seemed to almost stop for sex !
Zach said,
May 29, 2008 @ 10:40 pm
My fiancee and I have done it now three times since her period has started and it hasnt been messy at all… She is on the phone as i am writting this and i have asked her opinion and her take on all of this and she seems to agree with the fact that it does help the cramps blood flow and makes your self esteem higher… thanks for reading
Peter said,
June 2, 2008 @ 10:58 am
My girlfriend has just started her period and we are thinking about having sex in a couple of days.. she is unsure off doing it though because off the ‘mess’ i said to her at the end off the day sex is sex and i dont care if it gets messy, as it gets messy even if your not on your period ;)xxx
thanks for reading Peter
daniela said,
June 8, 2008 @ 3:22 am
I think having sex whilst having your period is okay. Infact, I am much hornier than usual when i have my period and my partner doesnt mind as long as we wear a condom. I dont thing its gross.. Not if you take care of the situation first so that it doesnt become “messy”. I always “Clean myself” before we start.. meaning i have a mini shower and wash myself. then afterward i do the same. Ladies should always stay on the bottom when in flow… thats how you avoid the bloody mess. :) Enjoy.
nick said,
June 8, 2008 @ 7:52 pm
I have always been the guy who got my other friends into having sex when on the rag. Once you try it, its really not that big of a deal.
A little blood never scared me
jaquinta said,
June 11, 2008 @ 12:37 am
hi . um i got a question i had sex today. i used a condom i kinda scare right now . i wanted to know if yo had sex whilr you on your period . can you get pregnant ?
jaquinta said,
June 11, 2008 @ 12:39 am
my email is jaquintabooker@tmail.com
Erin said,
June 11, 2008 @ 8:13 pm
hahahahahahahaahhahahaha, :D
lol said,
June 13, 2008 @ 3:28 pm
LOL JESSICA
Anonomous said,
June 16, 2008 @ 2:55 am
My bf loves it for some reason.
kim said,
June 18, 2008 @ 6:26 am
YOU ALL ARE SICK FUCKERS
Blob Female said,
June 21, 2008 @ 4:49 pm
hey,
question:
if you have sex while having your period using a condom would be perfectly safe so you don’t get pregnate. what if you hav sex without the condom but still have your period do you get pregnate?
Tiffany said,
June 22, 2008 @ 2:23 am
My boyfriend and I just recently tried having sex while i was on my period. It does tend to get a little messy, but its the best sex ive ever had in my life, and he would agree!
Ant said,
June 22, 2008 @ 2:35 pm
I recently had sex during my period and found it quite painful to be honest, I myself feel hornier at the time of the month but the mess and the way you feel afterwards is quite unbearable. I suppose if you do it towards the end of your period it may be less painful and more enjoyable, well I reckon anyhow!
annonymous said,
June 22, 2008 @ 4:58 pm
tried it yesterday felt quite weird it smelt bad and made loads of mess we dident wear protection and i have to go to he doctors!!..
cheers
kim said,
June 24, 2008 @ 11:09 am
just wait till ur periods done. i kinda feel like ur messing with natural body processes which is wrong…even though ur doing natural activities. its my last day on it, i waited and now im seeing my boyfriend tonight.
fucking 2night lol said,
June 24, 2008 @ 6:30 pm
i love having sex on my period im only 10 and all my sex partners love it especially when it gets messy cuz they can suck my vag clean ooo gotta go have sex with my horny ass boyfriend lol c ya
JaNe said,
June 25, 2008 @ 5:41 pm
Well i have had sex on my period befor it does fell a lil fuked up but apart from that the only scary bit is thebit off him taking his cock out coz you worry your gonna leak but dont just habe a tissue handy put it there go to the bathroom and sort yourself out
thankies
p.s to all those ppl who think its sick wots wrong with a lil bit off blood god its natural n its not gonna hurt ya
crystal said,
June 28, 2008 @ 7:53 am
me and my boyfriend have sex when i am on my period alllll the time, and sometimes it get slightly messy but it feels absolutely amazing and after u can take a nice shower to get clean. sex is way beetter when on the rag
j.d. said,
June 28, 2008 @ 8:43 pm
Wow sounds fun.I wanna try
GAR said,
June 29, 2008 @ 11:16 pm
WELL I HAVE TO SAY THAT SEX WITH MY LADY DURING THE RED TIME IS FINE ….. BUT …THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH HER HAVING A HANDFUL OF BABY OIL IN HER HAND AND AROUND THE MEMBER WHILST I LAY BACK AND THINK OF THE NEXT TIME I CAN PUT THE MEMBER INTO HER HAVEN !! SEX IS WHAT IS GOOD FOR BOTH OF YOU !!!
Liz said,
July 2, 2008 @ 11:56 am
I was completely adverse to having sex while I was on my period for the longest time. Just the thought of it whenever my boyfriend asked to do it anyway grossed me out. I referred to that week as B.J. week, lol. But I’d been away at camp for two weeks, and when the day I got back, I started my period; he told me that we were having sex anyway, because he had waited too long to wait another week, and I gave in. After that, though… Oh, my gosh. That was the greatest sex of my life. I told him that we were only going to have sex while I was on the rag from now on. Lol, okay, so, that didn’t turn out, and we still have sex like every night and morning, but when I’m on my period is my favorite time of the month!
gettin' horny 2nite said,
July 2, 2008 @ 10:29 pm
who cares if you have sex on yo period its not like you gonna die or sumthin’ if you felin’ horny then just do it but if you wanna wait then wait its just once a month deal with it
totiana said,
July 3, 2008 @ 10:42 am
that shit is fuckin nasty who the hell would do that shit
ps. you guys are disgusting
yo momma said,
July 3, 2008 @ 10:39 pm
so you guys my bf is in the Marines and he just came back for the 4th of july vacations they get and he really wants to have sex with me for this 4 days that he’s gunna be here bcz he was away for 1 month but it turns out to be that im on my period… :( i dnt want to do it bcz i think its gross or nasty maybe even messy, but he said he doesnt give a fuk so ima try it 2marrow and hopefully its not as bad….. :)
thanks for reading
emmy said,
July 6, 2008 @ 5:01 am
I have had sex with my boyfriend when im on more than once and it was kinda gross at first but it did help with cramps and also both my boyfriend and myself agree that it is not a bad thing and it actually made us feel very close becuase of it and it can feel better than normal sex when not on because of extra lube and stuff like that!
try it!
thanks for reading! :)
I Love My Boyfriend said,
July 7, 2008 @ 11:47 pm
So my boyfriend and I tried having sex while I had my period. We were in my dorm room and we both wanted too really bad. Of course I didn’t want to ruin my bed so we hopped on my roommates bed(people never do that tho. it is not the best way to make friends with your roommate). So we did it and it was a little messy, but it wasn’t that bad. It felt amazing and def. relieved the cramps for a while. I am always the horniest when I have my period so since that day my boyfriend and I always have amazingly hott sex when I have my period. Well, and of course when I do not have it too. I feel like it brings him and I closer together too. Idk maybe it is just me that feels that way, but I love him mucho and I love that he is always willing to have sex no matter if I am on my period.
cris said,
July 8, 2008 @ 4:20 am
I love women as women in their natural state be it small breasts, underarm hair or menstruating. It’s silly to ignore these lovely creatures when they are wound up. I personally see two married women at least once a month. They only need me during their periods. Their husbands have decided to ignore them when they need them most. The Husbands loss.
They both know I’m just an outlet for them and they are very thankful for my openness in sharing this most beautiful and natural period with them. ‘Jennifer’ who has irregular periods likes getting a quick lick and then likes to fuck and smear the blood on to my chest. ‘Alisa” is a very heavy bleeder she is 26 days on the nose. She likes to get eaten while on her period a little sex and then to straddle my face for her final cum. She always gives me a kiss after (getting a little red too) before helping me clean it off.
In college, I was sitting in a girls room when she complained about her jock head boyfriend not helping her when she was “ragging,” I said “what an idiot.” 20 minutes later I was sharing the horniest time of month with her and a couple months later she told her roomie who was thankful for the help too.
Guys don’t skip out on your women during her time of need. You’re missing some of the best sex ever. If you do skip out who knows what she will do. I’ll get all the clean up work and I’m probably sharing some of the most meaningful sex your wife/ GF has in their whole lives. Plus it shows you accept her as she is not some Barbie Hollywood production.
nobber said,
July 12, 2008 @ 2:37 pm
My GF is really horny after a couple of days into her period (as long as it hasn’t been “a bad one”). I don’t care about the mess although it does gross her out. Having said that I find she is more sensitive and always orgasms, she loves it as it is more intense than normal. We always shower together before hand I think that boosts her confidence from the messyness and grubby feeling.
We always use condoms I’d advised using durex “tingle” brand if you want her to scream there outstanding condoms. Plus the mint hides any smell that might freak your partner out.
Lovable said,
July 13, 2008 @ 12:54 am
i love having sex on my period with my boyfriend. He says the smell of my blood turns him on and he loves it. I dont know why guys complain about it its just a little bit of blood and the smell is natural.
suggarbaba said,
August 2, 2008 @ 7:06 am
when you are a mother of 2 and have very stressful day it doesnt matter if you have got ya rags or not you have sex when you can
and yeah its a bit gross for the first couple of time but put down a towel put on a comdom and get down to business its great
TimaBee said,
September 24, 2008 @ 3:33 pm
I was doing some research on having sex during that time of the month. I actually started it a few days ago and it’s kind of heavy, but it usually subsides after the 4th day. My bf is coming to visit me this weekend. I’m not sure if he’ll be into doing it when on my period…hmmm…I guess we’ll just have to wait and see.